After The Dinner Party, Judy Chicago came back to Houston to organize women to embroider her images for The Birth Project.
One evening a friend and I sat on someone’s living room floor along with 15 or 20 others and listened to Judy outline her vision for The Birth Project. Her strong magnetic presence had me convinced I wanted to be a part of it all.
Then I went home to my three year old son Matthew.
He had been diagnosed as severely mentally retarded and autistic. In 1980, autism was a label that covered a wide spectrum of developmental disorders. One of his doctors made it clear that she believed one of the then prevailing theories of the causes of autism--the mother’s “coldness” toward the child. I guess my being his full time mother and nursing him for only a year was the basis for her diagnosis.
As I came to grips with the reality of his condition, I drew the image on the small piece of black paper in a sketchbook and called it my contribution to The Birth Project. I did not participate in any part of Chicago's project.
Last year I dug the image out, drew the image on the right-hand page, and sketched the small canvas you see below. I wanted to see if there was still some energy there that might help someone else working through the grief over a child that does not turn out as we had expected.
Matthew is now 30 years old. He lives in a lovely group home in Cypress, Texas with five other young men who have similar handicapping conditions. They have been together for 18 years. He is happy there and has a good life. His older brother, father, and I love him dearly and enjoy his visits with us. He relishes time spent in beautiful buildings. His favorite magazine is Architectural Digest.
